What you write here stays yours.

You can browse the library, the red-flag index, and a sample reading without signing in, and nothing about that visit is stored.

A reading built from your own conversation needs an account, because it is saved to your private journal the moment it's made. Signing in is also what keeps your past readings about the same person available to read the next one against.

Readings: the conversation you pasted, any context you added, what you were tempted to do, the reading itself, what you actually did, your note about how it went, and the message you really sent.

Threads: the first name you give him, an optional one-line label, a status, and anything you wrote in the note field.

Your account: your name, email address, and how you sign in.

Dates you schedule are kept in your own browser on that device, not on our servers — unless you save one to your Google Calendar, in which case a small ledger of that one event is kept (described below).

A screenshot you upload is stored privately, behind access that only your signed-in account can open, and is read once so the words can be put in the paste box. The transcript then takes its place in the form.

Connecting Google Calendar is optional and separate from everything else in the app. Decline it, or never connect, and every date still downloads as a calendar file (.ics) that Apple Calendar, Outlook and Google Calendar itself can open. That file is built in your browser, so the date never leaves your device to make it.

If you do connect, you authorize your own Google account — never anyone else's. The app asks for a single permission: to see, create and change events on your calendar (calendar.events). It cannot read your existing events, your email, your contacts, or anything else in your Google account, and it never asks for your Google password.

What gets written: only the dates you choose to save — the event title (for example “First date — Dana”), the place if you added one, the start and end time, three reminders (24 hours, 3 hours and 30 minutes before), and the vetting checklist as the event's description. All of that is on the screen before you save, so nothing is added that you haven't seen.

What comes back: Google's own confirmation of the event just created — its id, title, start time, and a link to open it. No other event, calendar, attendee or calendar setting is retrieved or kept.

What stays on our servers: a small ledger so that saving the same date twice updates that one event instead of creating a duplicate. It holds your user id, a fingerprint of the date (its start time plus his first name), Google's event id, the title, the start time, and the link. That is the whole record.

The access token Google issues is held by the app's connector on the server. It is never sent to your browser, never shown to you, and never written into a reading, a journal entry or an email.

You can revoke it at any time: Disconnect Google Calendar in Settings, or remove Standards First at myaccount.google.com/permissions. Access stops immediately, events already in your calendar stay exactly where they are, and deleting your account removes the ledger too.

Standards First's use and transfer to any other app of information received from Google APIs will adhere to the Google API Services User Data Policy, including the Limited Use requirements.

In plainer terms, calendar data is used only to create or update the dates you asked to save. It is never sold, never used for advertising, never used to build a profile about you or to work out your creditworthiness, and never used to train or improve any AI model — calendar data is never sent to the AI model that produces readings at all.

It is never handed to another app or third party, except as needed to run this one feature (Google itself, and the platform that hosts this app, under the same limits), when you explicitly ask for it, or when the law requires it.

No one reads your calendar data. The only exceptions are the narrow ones Google permits: if you ask for support and share it to fix a problem, to investigate a security issue, or to comply with the law.

Because the .ics download works without any Google connection, connecting is never a condition of using the app or of keeping your journal.

To build a reading, the text you paste is sent to an AI model, which returns the flags, the suggested response, and the reasoning you see. Nothing is published, shared, or posted anywhere.

Two account emails exist: one welcome note when your account is created, and one confirmation when a Plus payment goes through. Beyond those, if you have saved at least one reading and haven't logged a check-in in a day, you may get one reminder email. A new account with an empty journal never gets the reminder, and every marketing email carries an unsubscribe link.

Your readings and threads are visible only to you. Saved records are protected so another member can never open, change, or delete them.

The app's administrator can access saved records when needed to operate or fix the app. Your journal is not reviewed, read aloud, or used to build anything you didn't ask for.

Any single reading or thread can be deleted from your journal, and deleting is permanent.

Deleting your account from the account menu removes your profile along with every reading and thread saved to it. There is no recoverable copy kept afterward.

The Free plan needs no card and asks for no payment information. Plus is billed by Stripe. Your card details are typed on Stripe's checkout and never reach this app or its servers.

What this app keeps about a membership is only whether it's active, the Stripe customer and subscription references, and the next renewal date. Stripe keeps your billing details under its own privacy policy.

To run the monthly allowance, the app also records how many AI readings you've used in the current month — a count, not the content of the conversation.

This app is written for adults and isn't intended for anyone under 18.

If what the app stores or how it handles your words changes, this page is updated and the date at the top changes with it.

This app is a reflective reading tool. It isn't therapy, legal advice, medical advice, or a safety assessment. If you ever feel unsafe, contact local support services — The Hotline (thehotline.org) is free, confidential, and open 24/7 in the US.